Dear parents and friends:

Hello! Facing the morning sun and accompanying the spring sunshine, you are busy in all walks of life. For life and family, you bear the pressure and bitterness that children cannot yet understand. Thank you for your hard work!

The hardships of life may make you feel aggrieved, angry or confused. You may have to face unreasonable behavior and procrastination from your children at home, and occasionally there may even be a family "world war". You may also have a lot of expectations for your children, hoping that your children will be more obedient, healthy, filial, sensible, smart, and excellent... Sometimes you will fall into helplessness: "I do my best for my children, why?" My child is still not good enough?”

In fact, your children also have some expectations for you: maybe it is your sincere affirmation and appreciation, your sweet smile when you come home late at night, your delicious meal, or maybe a relaxing parent-child trip. They hope to learn from these I feel your care and warmth inside.

I believe you must love your child deeply. Love is the most healing power in the world. I implore you to take this love for your children out of your heart and put it back into real life. We suggest that you make your children truly feel your care and love for them from the following aspects:

1. Carry out parent-child communication and home-school communication

Due to the epidemic, it is a special new semester, and students are prone to psychological problems in adapting to the start of school. Parents need to help their children balance the conflict between study and play. If necessary, parents are asked to communicate more with the class teacher to understand their children's school activities, and share, encourage and provide appropriate care with their children at least once a week about school life and learning.

2. The evaluation of children should be based on encouragement.

When children make mistakes or encounter setbacks, they will also feel sad and worried, and they need parents' insight and encouragement. Parents should be good at discovering even the smallest achievements and progress of their children, and give them timely praise and affirmation in different forms. This will make the children feel that they have the support and warmth of their parents behind them.

3. Companionship is the best education

First, try to accompany them as much as possible. Parents can pick up and drop off their children together, cook and eat together, etc., and seek to establish a warm family communication time with their children. The second is to improve the quality of companionship. On weekends, parents should put down their mobile phones and try their best to spend time with their children, so that their children can feel happy and feel the intimacy between parents and relatives.

4. Detect children’s abnormal behavior in time

In line with the principles of early detection, timely intervention, effective intervention, and prevention of special emergencies, we pay close attention to children's abnormal psychological and behavioral characteristics, and cooperate with the school to carry out investigation work. If any abnormal situation is discovered, parents are asked to communicate with the class teacher promptly and truthfully so that the home and school can work together to intervene as soon as possible to protect the students' mental health.

5. Seek medical treatment promptly and be cured as soon as possible

If a child is suspected of having an abnormality, parents should communicate with the class teacher in time and go to an authoritative medical institution for diagnosis and active treatment to strive for an early cure. Parents need to understand that their children's lives are extremely important. What determines their children's lives is not their studies, but their fresh life and sound body and mind!

Dear parents, let us, home and school, work together to care for our children, protect their physical and mental health, and grow up happily!

I wish all parents good health, smooth work and happy families!

Qionglin School Psychological Counseling Room
June 4, 2020