When children reach high school age, their ability to manage themselves is already very strong. Parental supervision is already weak, let alone guidance. Moreover, since high school courses are already very specialized, if parents are not professional high school teachers, we do not recommend that parents Counseling, then, can parents just leave it to fate? No, parents can also play a big role.

Parents must make their position clear, not give instructions, but be friends of their children, and influence their children by chatting with them from time to time.

Children in high school have their own strengths, that is, they can already understand some principles of life, but they still do not study well, which means that they still have bad study habits, or they have not mastered the correct study methods. At this time, parents must be equal. Talk to your children as someone who has been there.

Parents should first tell their children: He already understands the importance of learning for your future, and he also understands that even if you don’t study well, you can make a living in other low-level ways. Therefore, as parents, if your children insist on looking for other paths, parents will support them. ; However, parents hope that their children can use this method of learning to get a high starting point for their lives.

At the same time, parents should also tell their children in a calm manner that his current performance is not ideal. So what's the difference?

Does the child have bad listening habits? Are you easily distracted in class? If you are easily distracted, restrain yourself and listen clearly to what the teacher says, and think and act according to the teacher's words;

Is it that children are very easy to make associations based on a small clue, delaying the lecture and unable to consciously stop? If this is the reason, then warn your children to control their thoughts in the future and not to have extravagant thoughts;

If your child is not familiar with a certain subject, it means he has never met a good teacher to guide him on the right path. Then find a good cram school for him;

Is the child excessively addicted to the Internet, songs, and chasing stars? If so, then put it aside for a year. The Internet or celebrities will not disappear after a year. We will become obsessed after we have passed the college entrance examination;

It is not a problem whether the child has fallen behind in learning for many years and is hard to overcome. In fact, a student's twelve years of schooling can be condensed into one year to make up for it. We say "make up" because in these twelve years, he has not spent even one minute. He didn't study, he just needed to make up for his omissions, and the time to make up for them didn't take very long. It's like a 5,000-meter long-distance runner. The first one is running, and the last one is also running. The gap that the last one needs to make up is only the three to five minutes difference between their crossing times, not the entire distance. Therefore, children must build up confidence, at least start taking action from now on, follow and gradually shorten the gap, rather than continue to widen the gap.

No matter what the reason is, what is certain is that there is no child who does not study well for no reason. If he does not study well, there must be some problem. Parents should self-check, mutually check, and jointly check with their children.

Finding the problem is the first step, and then parents and children work together to figure out a solution. Once the solution is formulated, students must abide by the plan, put down their airs and rebelliousness, and ask parents to work together to supervise themselves. At this point, if parents can talk to students on an equal footing, most students will accept it.